EVERY WOMAN HAS INSECURITIES.
If you’ve been considering a boudoir session, but you haven’t because of your insecurities, just know that every woman has them. It doesn't matter the size every woman in the world has something they don’t love about themselves.
Take it from me. I’ve seen women of every shape and size who tell me their insecurities. After their session though, they end up seeing themselves in an entirely new light. Boudoir sessions build confidence like nothing else.
Carry Miller was one of my very first clients while living in Illinois and I had no idea she was even struggling. She was always so happy when I spoke with her and she was so excited about her session. It wasn't until after her session that she opened up to me about her body insecurities. I was surprised to hear that and had no idea. She had some scars from an undiagnosed illness and I honestly didn't even really notice them.
But the day I sent her - her gallery she then sent me this text....
"...I just feel awful at what's become of my body. Then I go to my boudoir photos and it instantly makes me feel better. It's been pretty hard to look in the mirror lately and the photos you took of me are my constant reminder that whatever I have going on is temporary and that I will get back to that girl who felt confident in her own skin the way I did that day at your house. The timing of those photos was perfect and I'm so thankful I have them right now.
You don't realize this but the moment you book you have already started the process of initiating your goal to gain more confidence. Then its the planning, getting nervous, cold feet, intrusive thoughts. How do I know this? Because I get the text all the time from client's telling me they are not only nervous but freaking out about their body. I have never had anyone cancel because of their fear but I do receive several text or emails with concerns. It happens!! But you already started your journey by booking so don't let yourself down now. I will be holding your hand the entire time. I am not a size 2/4 gal, I have my own insecurities and I can show you my own photos to show you, "hey I did it!".
The entire process is a journey. While you are sitting in hair and make-up I am picking your brain and getting you to open up. I want us to really get to know each other so by the time its time to start picking out your lingerie you feel more comfortable being honest with me about outfit suggestions. I want you to pull that diva out! Say, "mmm no next!" and "I really like this one can I choose this one?"
When we struggle mentally with our insecurities it will cause you to be indecisive. Its time to challenge that! I don't want you to choose what you think I will like, I want you to choose what YOU will like!
This includes hair and make-up, don't like your lipstick color? Speak up, lets change it!
If you are a type A personality, don't hide that either!
At the very end of the process you are in full control, right down to choosing your favorite photos on my laptop. At the same time I am always open to giving my opinion.
Learning to love ourselves can be a journey, but it's one that is worth taking. We need to start by accepting ourselves for who we are, flaws and all. We should focus on our strengths and the things that make us unique. You deserve this shoot, yes you!
In conclusion, dealing with insecurities can be tough, but it's important to remember that we are not alone. It's okay to feel vulnerable and struggle mentally, but we need to focus on self-love and acceptance to overcome our insecurities. We are all worthy of a Boudoir session and having fun, and this isn't just for a fit confident female. Book the shoot, you are already here, make it happen. Start your self love journey here...
